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Hi Reader

We've been watching The Bear recently. If you haven't seen it, it's a gritty drama set in a restaurant in Chicago. But underneath, it's really about grief, family, perfectionism, trauma, ambition, anxiety, uncertainty and relationships between people. It's brilliantly acted, but one thing has really stood out to me.

Everyone seems exhausted. Not only physically, but emotionally too.

Every conversation feels tense. Every decision feels heavy. Every relationship feels like hard work.

As we've watched it this week, I've found myself feeling the weight each character seems to be carrying. I found myself wondering if they're making life so much harder than it needs to be.

I thought about each character. They have somewhere to live, they have food to eat, they have a job, they have people who care about them, and yet everything still feels so difficult.

Then I thought... are there times when I can be like that too?

Earlier this week, I came across a quote that simply said: "Let go of the oars and go with the flow."

I've been thinking about it ever since. How often do I try to control, steer and push, when I could simply stop resisting and go with the flow?

There are certainly times in life when we need to put our backs into the rowing. We need determination, perseverance and effort and to just keep going.

But there are other times when the current is already carrying us in the right direction... and we're exhausting ourselves by fighting it.

Sometimes the situation is genuinely hard. But sometimes, we can make it even harder by resisting what is.

Perhaps we're trying to change someone else's mind or hoping they'll react differently (or perhaps more like we would). Maybe we're replaying a conversation that can't be undone, coming up with all the things we wish we'd said. We may be worrying about something completely outside our control (even though we'd dearly love it not to be). Or perhaps we're holding on so tightly to how we think life should be that we can't appreciate how it actually is.

It reminded me how much of our energy can be spent resisting rather than living.

And I wonder how often it's not the situation that's making life feel hard...

...but the way we're holding it... or perhaps how tightly we're holding on to it.

So perhaps my gentle thought for this week is simply this:

Live as you dream ❤️

Kimberley and Phil

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